Why Aren’t My Kids Better Liars?
by Gina Valley
Why aren’t my kids better liars?
It’s not like they don’t practice.
I feel like such a failure. Clearly, I’m not providing them with the deception training they need to develop into the amazing liars I know they could be.
Consider yesterday’s example:
I asked Son#3 & Son#4, “Did you finish cleaning your room?”
“Yes!” they answered in unison, already opening the cabinet to access the Xbox.
“Is it really clean, or did you just stop working on it?” I asked to clarify their answer. I watch Law & Order. I know how to interrogate.
“It’s clean!” they answered in unison, sticking to their story, while they tug-o-war’ed with the favored XBox black controller. They’ve been watching NCIS for denial tips.
I totally support a “Trust but Verify” policy in both international relations and child proclamations, but yesterday that policy was frustrated by a case of the dizzy, nauseated thing going on, which made me running up and down the stairs every 5 minutes to check on my minions somewhat problematic. I had to continue my investigation verbally
“Yes!” they again answered emphatically in unison. Son#3 had somehow managed to wrest the coveted black controller away from Son#4. I was surprised that Son#4 wasn’t complaining about being stuck with one of the less loved light colored controllers, but I didn’t allow it to get me off track.
I gave them both “The Eye,” and asked, “Could a blind guy walk across your floor without getting hurt?” Sometimes you have to get specific to eliminate semantics.
“Yes,” Son#3 answered slowly. “He’d be wearing shoes, right?”
“He should probably wear boots,” Son#4 offered, while lining up their Skylanders.
“Clean your room!” was my closing argument.
Or, perhaps consider Daughter#3’s poor performance last month after she walked past my office with perfectly curled tresses rather than her naturally straight hair:
“No,” she said, picking up speed a bit in a race to hit the stairs before I hit her with the next question.
I can move fast, too, and darted out into the hall to ask, “Then, how did your hair get so curly?”
“I must have slept on it funny,” my 3rd born, feminine-flower answered.
“You slept on it funny? It doesn’t look funny. It looks curled. You’re supposed to ask before you use other people’s stuff and you know it.”
“I must have twirled it around my finger a lot in my sleep,” she suggested, clearly thinking my mind had twirled out my ear in the middle of the night.
I couldn’t help but do a brain revealing eye roll. I hollered down the stairs to her, “Put my curling iron back in my bathroom right now, before I twirl you around something.”
And, who can forget last week’s record grounding-inducing, pathetic attempt by Son#2 when I came upon him entering the house as I was on my way out at 6:00AM on a Saturday morning:
“I got the paper,” he answered holding up the newspaper he had retrieved from our driveway.
“I see. And, you needed a car key for that?” I asked, pointing to the key in his other hand. I’m sure Mr. Jane would have been proud of me.
“Uhhh,” he began. I was tempted to sit down, as I recognized that a show was about to begin. “I went out to get donuts for the family.”
“Really?” I like to play along.
“Yeah, I figured I better go early, so there was a better selection,” Son#2 continued.
“How thoughtful!” I said. “Where are the donuts?”
“Uhhh, I didn’t have any money in my wallet to buy them,” he continued. “So, I went to the bank to cash my paycheck, but I couldn’t get the machine to work and they weren’t open, so I just came home.”
“Give me your keys. You won’t need them for quite some time,” I said more calmly than I thought possible, considering my mind was running through all of the different ways to strangle a person at the time.
“Why am I getting in trouble for trying to do something nice for the family?” he scoffed, clearly wounded by this perceived injustice.
“You weren’t trying to do something nice for the family. The closest you got to buying us donuts this morning was driving past the mini mall on your way home after sneaking out to play video games at you friends’ house all night. And, if you say one more word, I will take you down to the bank when it opens, and have them show you the video tape of you not trying to use the ATM to cash your paycheck, which by the way went through the laundry last night because you left it in your jeans pocket.”
You know, it’s not the lying so much as the lack of effort behind it that really bothers me. I mean, come on, if they’re going to be dishonest, couldn’t they at least make an effort? I’m not a complete moron.
How about showing some respect? Is it too much to ask that they at least hide my suede boots after wearing them out in the rain, rather than sticking the mud cover things back on my shelf?
How about acknowledging my intelligence? Why not put down his brother’s truck before denying taking it from him?
I worry for my children. They seem to be lacking such basic level dishonesty skills, and they aren’t putting in the hard work necessary to become quality deceivers.
How will they be finesse-filled spouses or skilled parents or Christmas character supporters?
How will they successfully apply for a mortgage or negotiate for a car or eat dinner at their in-laws house?
I realize now that I should have set a better example. I should have been lying to them all along.
But, it’s never too late to start. I’ll change my ways. I’ll make a difference in their lives before it’s too late. I’ll start today.
I’ll tell them I’m in the kitchen making dinner, when I’m actually in the kitchen snarfing the cookie dough.
I’ll tell them I went to the gym, when all I actually did was stop by my friend Jim’s house to return a book.
And, I’ll tell Son#3 that he can borrow my car, and when he heads for the door, I add, “but you may not” just to help them work on those semantics.
I know there’s still hope.
If we all pull together, I may be able to raise a pack of skilled liars yet!
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